No matter the length or stability of the marriage there can always be arguments between couples. But where do you draw the line between a mere argument and verbal abuse? When is it too much?
Marital arguments
Arguments can arise for various reasons—responsibilities, plans, control, jealousy or lack of affection for example. Couples in a healthy marriage would tend to resolve arguments through respectful communication.
Resolving arguments could indicate the couple’s eagerness to keep their good relationship. When arguments remain unsolved, keep on recurring, and escalate to involve insults or threats, it might be a form of domestic violence. Domestic violence is not just about physical abuse; it can be any form of abuse such as sexual, emotional or verbal.
Verbal abuse
Verbal abuse involves power play and often includes attacks toward the other person. This can be in the form of insults, name-calling, mocking, bullying, etc. It could also imply shifting the blame towards the partner, saying that the argument would not have happened if they did or did not do something. It is usually verbal abuse when one of the partners feels powerless towards the other.
Is it time to let go?
Sometimes, people on the receiving end of the verbal abuse might feel a sense of denial, or they might feel ashamed to be in this position. Remember that there is always help available, such as therapy or meditation. But when it becomes too unbearable, it might be time to let go.
Marriage should be a blissful experience, growing old with your beloved partner and building a happy family. Arguments are normal, but it should not reach a point where one compromises their self-worth and rights. When a relationship becomes too toxic, some people might see ending a marriage as the best option for their well-being.
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