Deciding to leave an abusive relationship is a courageous step, but it can also be a dangerous one. Abusers may escalate their violence when they sense a loss of control, and that is why creating a safety plan is crucial.
Thorough planning is crucial
A safety plan is a personalized strategy to help protect you and your children during the process of leaving an abusive relationship. Key elements include:
- Identifying safe places to stay, such as with family, friends and close colleagues
- Keeping important documents like IDs, birth certificates, passports and financial records secure
- Preparing an escape route and transportation
- Setting aside emergency cash and other essentials
- Creating a code word to signal distress to trusted individuals
While planning the escape, you may also have a “go-bag” ready containing clothes, some cash, other essentials, and important documents.
Protection from retaliation
New Jersey’s Prevention of Domestic Violence Act provides critical legal protections and resources for survivors of domestic abuse. Under the Act, victims can file for temporary restraining orders (TROs) to keep their abusers away and seek emergency shelter and support services.
The Act allows for compensation to cover medical expenses and lost wages resulting from the abuse. Importantly, it enables victims to obtain court orders against their abusers to prevent further violence. Beyond that, it establishes a framework of additional legal safeguards, services and resources to support and empower survivors as they attempt to escape the cycle of abuse and rebuild their lives safely.
A new beginning
Leaving an abusive relationship is a challenging journey, but you do not have to go through it alone. With proper planning and support, a life free from violence is possible, and you may even seek to hold your abuser accountable for their actions. Remember, you deserve safety, respect and the opportunity to thrive and nurture your family.
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