Victims of domestic violence: Create an escape plan when you’re ready to divorce

Domestic violence impacts many families both here in Clark, New Jersey, and elsewhere. Finding an effective solution that falls short of divorce is often impossible.

If you’re the victim of domestic violence and you’re taking steps toward a divorce, we know that you value your safety. In our time serving families suffering from domestic violence, we have learned that making an escape plan before taking any other action can make your exit safer.

Tips for making an escape plan

To help ensure your family’s safety, our lawyers have put together a few tips to guide you through the process of creating your plan:

1. Start setting aside as much money as possible to fund your escape. Many people ask a trusted friend or family member to hold on to emergency cash.
2. Keep records of any domestic violence injuries you suffer. Examples of documentation include photos of your injuries, police reports and medical records. Ask the same person holding your money to protect these records.
3. Track the incidents of violence in a journal or diary. However, please make sure that your spouse cannot find this vital piece of evidence.
4. Secure a safe place for yourself for when you are ready to leave your spouse. Examples include the home of someone your spouse does not know or a shelter for abused individuals.

In many situations, a family law attorney can fill a critical role in your escape plan. In addition to helping you secure a protective order or safely file for divorce, an attorney may also help you find a safe shelter from your abuse.